Count YOUR blessings not OTHERS'.

A mature christian does not use their blessing(s) to measure up or to judge other people. Blessing in form of good health, a latest car, a mansion,a well paid/prestigious job, children or a spouse. The latter examples (children or spouse) has been weighing on my heart recently, because in Christendom, it's a do or die affair. In fact to some it's an indication of your faith or lack thereof, and also a sign of  a curse if you do not have these said things. If not so, 'Baby making crusades, or 'marry today' crusades will not be so popular.If a woman (although I should use 'person' but realistically women bear most of the stigmas in relation to these issues) is single and approaching a certain age and is not married yet, she is seen in a negative light likewise if she is married and doesn't have children. These believes are not biblical but traditional, in this case African traditions.

It becomes problematic when we value our traditions more than we value our Christian believes. A married christian  person that is functioning under a traditional mindset will treat their unmarried friends with contempt, and make rude remarks to them such as 'when are you getting married? well marriage is just for the privileged few anyway so I wouldn't worry yourself about it,' and they'll end it with the most patronising phrase ever in Christendom; 'It is well.' This person will utter words in the same line to a friend who is married and cannot/does not have children; 'my sister, children are a blessing and a reward from the Lord' and of course nothing will be complete without the added 'It is well'.

As mature Christians our worry or care should be  deeper. Our care should be for people's souls. Are they saved? Are they growing in their relationship and walk with Christ? These are the poignant questions, not is she a single mother, is she 50 and still single, married still no children? Those are inconsequential and they are not the basis of a relationship with Christ. We must keep in mind that only God knows best and he chooses to have mercy on whom he wishes. We are worthy not because of our perfection but for Christ's.

You are not to judge people by their circumstances or past mistakes but by their fruits. Do you see a genuine desire for God in them? Do you see them changing? Can you look back to where they were and where they are now and praise God for where they'll be in Him in years to come?  Aren't unbelievers, atheist and satanists blessed? They have houses, children, spouse, health and wealth but they do not equate to the true blessing that can only be found in Christ;  which is everlasting life. So what if you are not married, if you can't have children, don't have the biggest mansion in the world? As long as God has blessed you with salvation; YOU ARE BLESSED. For who God has blessed no man can curse, and it is Christ in you the hope of glory.

~Read your bible, do what it says and SHIYNE on.