Monday, 21 January 2013

Beneath The Beautiful

Sunday morning, off to church we go. Pretty shoes,latest clothes,sharpest suites and the best of fragrances. Every flaw hidden, all the guilt tucked away all in order to present a pretty and blissful front. In biblical days it was so easy to spot someone that was bereaved,  saddened, depressed, or widowed. They would all dress up in sackcloth and ashes, so it was clearly apparent that they had a problem. It would have been easier for Christians to spot each other's need and therefore minister to one another accordingly.

I'm not suggesting for a moment that we go back to those ways, but that we as Christians toady, become more sensitive to the prompting of the holy spirit. Do not let the pretty,strong, well put together exterior put you off, from ministering as the holy spirit directs. For instance, you could be in the presence of an upbeat cheerful person, always the one doing meet and greet in church, because of how cheerful they appear, but yet you feel an intense sense of sadness within, when they are around you. The sadness you are feeling, is truly how they are feeling inside. The way the holy spirit has thought me to deal with this is by asking myself 'what would you like done,if you were feeling this way?' If your answer is word of encouragement, a visit, a hug, money etc.... then that is what they need.

You could be led to give brother A £20, and you drive like a 1998 nissan micra and he is driving the latest BMW, and you maybe thinking to yourself  'eerm God, shouldn't it be the other way round? In fact God you should instruct him to sell his car and give me the proceeds' That would of course be reasonable. But what you do not know is that brother A asked God for that act to be a sign to show that God loves him, and in turn he'll give his entire life to Him. Brother A asked for £20 as a sign, because the money was insignificant in his millionaire mind.

Let us be attune with the holy spirit and to each other's needs.This song  below encapsulates my point perfectly.






Tuesday, 8 January 2013

Oral Sex and Christianity

I am sure that by just reading the title alone, many may automatically be put off.  But if you just bare with me, I am sure you'll find that there is method behind the madness.

A couple of days ago I was talking to a friend of mine,who is married and she discussed the fact that she did not feel comfortable giving and receiving oral pleasure to/from her husband. Her reason behind this thinking is that; 'it is ungodly'.
This was much to my surprise because I was of the opinion that if you are married,everything goes. When I say everything,of course not swinging,and other means of pleasure that allow other people into your love making sessions.Some may disagree with my opinion but I'm approaching this,as I approach everything; with a Christian world view.

This conversation with my friend really got me thinking, as prior to that I had no idea oral sex was even an issue for married Christian couples. I spoke to  Coach Abbey G, a London based Christian relationship counsellor and Pastor Fortune Obasi of Blessed Assurance Bible ministries,Rivers state,Nigeria: to get a varied and perhaps clearer perspective on the issue.
' I believe as Christians we need to be more open about such topics, instead of being open to ridicule and judgement. Communication is key and essential,' advised Coach Abbey.

'Whatever will make your marriage last is what you should do, as long as it's done with mutual consent and love,' suggests pastor Fortune.

Coach Abbey considers health (risk) to be another factor that may contribute to people's unwillingness to give and receive oral pleasure. 'Aside from personal/religious reasons,some Christian couples are also concerned about the link between oral sex and mouth cancer,  and all other forms of STDs.'

In terms of whether oral sex is right or wrong(godly or ungodly), Pastor Fortune pointed to 1st JOHN 3:20-21
'For if our heart condemn us, God is greater than our heart, and knows all things. Beloved,if our heart condemn us not,then have we confidence towards God.' In other words,if you are at peace with it then go ahead but if you feel uneasy, seek the Lord and communicate  openly with your spouse to reach an agreed end.

Well, you've read some of the opinions, what do you think?